My relationship with food and eating hasn’t always been plain sailing: quite the opposite in fact. Food was for sure my drug of choice growing up and my preferred tool to cope with the trauma of growing up with a mentally ill father.
I’m grateful though, not only because I could have easily chosen a WAY more destructive and debilitation coping mechanism, but also because those challenges taught me SO much of what I know now. By really understanding the subtle dynamics of what I call the “psychology of eating” I am able to help our clients identify the root causes of their unbalances with food which is a FUNDAMENTAL step to achieving long-lasting results.
Here’s the thing, you can eat all the “right” foods and know everything there is to know about healthier choices, calories, macro-nutrients, etc. but if you don’t investigate and improve how you eat and why you will still struggle to find peace and effortlessly maintaining a healthy weight. Most of us know a lot about how we could improve our diets to get positive results: why is it so hard to make the necessary changes then? The answer lies precisely in your very unique “psychology of eating”.
Having said all that, there are some harsh and universals truths around eating and weight-loss that I’ve found apply to everyone’s journey to some extent and will certainly help you make a shift in perspective that’s needed to improve: I’ve come to identify these in my work with hundreds of busy and time-pressed professionals all around the world and I truly believe you will get value and insights that you can implement right away.
So here comes the final of the 7 harsh truths of permanent weight-loss:
7. It takes longer than you think: to bring forth permanent and profound improvements so you better learn to love and embrace the process. The good news is: if you go about it a healthy and holistic way, once you get the results they’re yours for good. There will be no slipping back to the old ways. You will never be unable to resist something you know is not conducive to your goals and new lifestyle anymore. All those foods will completely lose any hold and influence. You will stop craving them and even stop considering them “edible food at all”. Trust me when I say that I really don’t have to work very hard at eating healthy, AT ALL.
It is NOT a matter of willpower, I don’t have to work hard to resist the abundance of junk food available to us every day. There is no tug of war going on in my life. I actually crave my healthy meals, in fact, that’s all I can think of eating most days. Once or twice a week I eat out and would go for so something more processed and rich than anything I ever cook at home: for sure I enjoy those moments but I never ever crave them more than occasionally. I don’t just LOVE the healthy foods I eat routinely, I also and most importantly LOVE how they make me feel: I’m very present to how my body responds to food so the idea of eating something that makes me feel sluggish, stuffed, bloated and heavy is actually not appealing at all most days.
And if you’re thinking that I’m special or I’m different or I’m making this up I promise you that I am not. This state is available to ANY human being on the planet: it doesn’t happen overnight and it does take some work and effort especially in the initial stages but once established, it is yours for life. In fact, I would go as far as saying that it should be your ultimate objective. Your body wants to be healthy, lean and fit: any state other than that is NOT its natural state.
Look around in nature: do you see any other mammals struggling with obesity and food-related chronic diseases (other than the poor domesticated cats and dogs WE feed)? Your body is not failing you, ever. The opposite is true in fact: you’re failing to take care of it the way it needs to be but the moment you recognize and make the relevant adjustments you’ll discover that it is your greatest ally in life and wants nothing more than for you to have a glorious, happy and fulfilled life for as long as possible.
Have you enjoyed this series? Do you have any questions on the 7 harsh truths? If so, don’t hesitate to email me on firstname.lastname@example.org. I’d love to hear from you.